"I want another baby."
My boss’s wife, Cindy adored their soon-to-be-teen daughter and son, but longed for a wee one to nurture. For months, Lance resisted her pleas. “Cindy, we have the perfect family: a boy and a girl. Let’s be content with that. Besides, I’ll be forty in a year. I don’t want people thinking I’m my kid’s grandfather at her high school graduation.”
Cindy was undaunted. Bit by “the baby bug,” she persisted in her heart’s desire for one more child.
Finally, Lance concocted a plan he was sure would discourage her. “All right, we can try one last time. But it must be a girl, she must be born before my fortieth birthday, and you need to have her on a Saturday, so I don’t have to take off work to go to the hospital with you.”
“Agreed,” said Cindy, humming to herself as she thumbed through a Babies R Us catalog.
Nine months later, Lance jolted awake when a finger gouged him in the rib. “Are you ready to go have this baby?” said Cindy. That afternoon, Tiffany June made her appearance. It was a Saturday, December 13, two days before Lance’s fortieth birthday.
When Lance related this story to me, I asked him if Cindy had prayed that he agree to another baby, or about the timing of Tiffany’s birth. “Not that I know of,” he said.
What? This really messes with my theology. I want people to have exactly what they want, when they want it, only if they have asked God for it. I certainly don’t believe luck had anything to do with Tiffany’s birth, so that leaves only one other answer: God did this as a favor to Lance and Cindy, simply because He loves them and wanted to bless them. Period. Why does this bother me? Because I want my teeter-totter balanced. If I obey the Lord and honor Him with my life, I can expect Him to answer outrageous prayers like a girl baby born on a certain day before her daddy’s 40th birthday. But if someone who wants something a specific way gets it without even asking God, what does that tell me?
Not what you might think. Not that it doesn’t pay to serve God, or that we shouldn’t pray for what we want and need, but simply this: God is God—He can do whatever He wants. And I believe it tickled Him to give Lance and Cindy exactly what they wanted, because He likes to make people happy. He is a good God who does good things for everyone, not only those who ask.
Here’s a final thought: If God gave someone the desire of their heart when they didn’t even ask Him, how much more would He give someone who comes boldly to His throne and makes their requests known? Kinda makes you want to expect a lot more out of Him, doesn’t it?









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Yes it does. :) God is good all the time; I know that I need to accept this fully and stop trying to figure things out sometimes. Amen, Jeanette!
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Karen
P.S. Love the baby photos!
I believe that's why she was bit by the baby bug when she was. I've come to accept that babies aren't in the cards for me, but there is nothing more beautiful than motherhood.
ReplyDeleteHmmm ... that teeters my totter too ... I'll need to think on this one!
ReplyDeleteI really like that! And God has a sense of humor, too. He gave us our 'oops' baby when we didn't expect or want one, and she is the absolute joy of our lives. He can do what He wants, and it's so much better than what we think to ask for.
ReplyDeleteI recall reading this earlier on your blog, Jeanette, and I'm glad her coercing didn't cause stress in their marriage and everything worked out okay.
ReplyDeleteOur decision about having a third child or adopting was overruled when I unexpectedly became pregnant after we had started the adoption proceedings. At the time, the idea of two babies only a few months apart was intimidating, but in fact it was much like having twins. We managed just fine, and our youngest has been a huge blessing to us. I can't imagine life without her. God's surprises are always what's best for us.
Karen: Oh, dear, I am a figurer-outer, too. It's exhausting, huh?
ReplyDeleteStephanie: We need you aunties to help raise our darlings; you are so objective.
Jamie: I know, huh?
Jill; I've heard of this in many familes. What we think is an "oops" is really God's love.
Carol: What fun! So glad the Lord blessed you in this unique way.
Hi Jen -
ReplyDeleteCute pics!
I know so many families with surprise babies. They all brought much joy to their loved ones.
Blessings,
Susan :)
Love how He blesses abundantly. But sometimes it's hard when it's in His timing.
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He has in many ways. Thanks for bringing me a step closer to Him:)
ReplyDeleteThe pictures are adorable. Yes, His ways are not always the ways we want but His surpises are fun too!
ReplyDeleteI'm telling the Lord that whatever He's doing in this season- don't do it without me!
ReplyDeleteI want to pregnant with His promises!